Body Confidence. Yes, it's Possible!

3 Pro tips to Stop the Body Shame and Invite in Body Acceptance

On our road to building body confidence, we first need to break down the body shame and invite in acceptance. Awareness is the first step. Read more to find out how to continue on this path.

Our inner critics are loud, always butting in and telling us how we “should” look. Outside forces do the same. The media, other people in our circle, family, etc. Diet culture also pushes a lot of messages towards us telling about our worth and what we should change about ourselves.

Full STOP on all of this.

Let’s trade the should and shame for a path to move towards body acceptance instead.

I would like to offer you 3 Pro tips to move towards Body Acceptance TODAY!

Start saying NO by to Body Shame!

Self-Talk Awareness

1. Recognize our self-talk for what it is. It’s our inner critic that’s been shaped by outside forces that are trying to sell us messages that our worth is based on our shape, size and weight. Your worth is not defined by these things. You define you.

You are the boss of your thoughts so next time that inner critic starts getting loud and crowding you out, pause and recognize it for

what it is and see if you can quiet those thoughts. Try neutralizing the thoughts for body acceptance or taking them a step further and turning them into something positive. Example: Inner Critic: I can’t wear this! Recognize this is the inner critic talking telling us we can’t wear something for various “reasons”. Neutralize it by thinking: I hear you and am not listening to you, I make my own decisions. Positive turn-around: If my body is comfortable in it and I like it, I will wear it. You can’t tell me what I can and cannot wear, I am empowered to make my own choices and know my worth is not based on my appearance. OR I can wear this if I want to, I really like it and it’s okay that it may not be “acceptable” to others, but it’s great for me so I will be wearing this FOR ME.

Body Gratitude

2. Write a Thank you Letter to your body! YES, that’s right, a thank you letter to give gratitude to your body for all it’s done for you and to show appreciation for specific body parts that you have especially benefited from over the years. Like a love letter to your body.

This is a practice of showing gratitude and compassion towards yourself. Begin by thinking about all the places your body has taken you and expand your awareness to what your body does for you and write about your gratitude for these areas.

Curiosity in Eating

3. Be curious about what it would be like to experience food freedom. What is food freedom? It’s eating when what and how you like. It’s no food rules, no dieting and no obsessing. FREEDOM! What would that be like for you? Journal about that scenario.

FOOD FREEDOM Journal Writing Prompts

Here are some prompts to help get you started:

When I am following food rules I believe/feel….

If I had no food rules, I would be….

If I had no food rules, I would feel….

If I used my own body’s cues, signals and intuition (body wisdom) to make decisions for myself about food, this would be/feel….

If I did this, how would my life improve and change long-term?

Dieting, body image, confidence and the expectations pressed upon us to “look” or “be” a certain way is hard. I get it. The path to body acceptance and building body confidence is one that isn’t linear. Finding food freedom can be a scary concept because it involves letting go of things we have known for years that have offered structure, community and short-term rewards.

I get this too because I have been a part of all of this. I lived a life of engaging in disordered eating behaviors and my inner critic owned a loudspeaker! One day, I made a choice for myself and begin my path to letting go of my food rules, perfections and judgement and inviting in body acceptance, more love and food freedom. Was it easy? No. Was it worth it? HECK YES!

I hope the above strategies I have offered will help you on your path too. I am here to support and answer questions. Let’s remember we’ve all been there, all of us are on unique paths and we can feel better in our bodies and mind. It IS possible to live in your body and not hate it but instead appreciate and honor it. It IS possible to eat without the diet or binge cycle but instead mindfully eat, making empowered choices based on your body’s wisdom. It IS possible to have wellness without obsession.

I want to help you experience all of this. Trade the shoulds and shame for wellness without obsession.

Are you IN?

Tell me how you feel after trying these strategies. Comment below!

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Author notes: I’d like to recognize the privileges that have impacted my health and perspectives. I identify as cisgender, able-bodied, I was raised middle class, I am college educated, I have thin privilege, have access to health care and insurance, I have benefited from being in a straight passing relationship and I benefit from being identified as being white.

I have thin privilege. I believe it’s key to have open discussions about this topic to help bring awareness of it and to also reduce the stigma around weight.

By acknowledging thin privilege, we can recognize that people in smaller bodies have not had experienced or been exposed to stigmatizing events that people in larger bodies have.

By recognizing my many privileges and having these important conversations I hope to help fight the oppressive systems of fatphobia and diet culture and other systems that impact underserved and marginalized communities.

I acknowledge that the land on which I live and work is the traditional and unceded territory of the Abegweit Mi’kmaq First Nation.